Rituals at a Bengali Wedding
Aiburobhaat: A Traditional Bachelor(ette) Party (Mar 2)
Just like a bachelor or bachelorette party, Aiburobhaat is a delicious treat given to the bride and groom by their family, friends and close relatives. This traditional custom marks the beginning of a grand celebration.
Bibaho / Biye: The Wedding (Mar 3)
The main “wedding” event wherein the groom’s procession journeys to the bride’s house (aka the wedding venue) to undertake the wedding rituals. The event is hosted by the bride’s family, and the Biabho (wedding) comprises multiple rituals during the course of the evening. A gala dinner takes place in parallel.
After the wedding ceremony is concluded, the groom takes the bride and travel’s back to his house.
Bodhu Boron: Welcoming the Bride (Mar 4)
When the new bride arrives at the door-steps of his husband’s house, her mother-in-law welcomes her into the house and family. This ritual symbolizes the entry of goddess Lakshmi into the house.
Phool Sojya: The Bed of Flowers (Mar 5)
The family members of the groom take the responsibility to decorate a beautiful floral bed after which the newlyweds begins their new life.
Bou Bhaat: The Reception (Mar 5 and 6)
The last wedding ritual is called Bou Bhaat where the groom’s family throws a big reception party by inviting their friends, relatives, and the bride’s family. After this wedding ritual both the couple unites for a lifetime. We have split our Bou Bhaat ceremony into two parts: a smaller pre-Reception dinner at the groom’s house on Mar 5, and the bigger Gala Dinner event on Mar 6 at St. Paul’s Cathedral, Kolkata.
If you would like to know more about Bengali marriage ceremonies and rituals, the webpages below have beautiful illustrations.